Jaya is hyper-educated, but she learned almost everything based on incentives and games. When I give her a command like talk!, she wags her little tail, denouncing the pleasure she feels when she receives a command. Because for her it's not a command: it's a game, a joke, an opportunity to interact with me. And she knows she's going to get a reward, whether it's a treat or a caress.

Dogs, critters and commanders respect an affable leader much more than a hysterical one. The authoritarian thinks he gets respect with his shouting and insults, but he does not. People only obey him as long as they have no means of overlapping and boycotting his supposed authority. They will not give their lives for him. Whoever develops the usual attitude of speaking softly and treating everyone well, even when they are wrong, if one day he speaks a little more seriously, that is enough for everyone to respect him.

You must know people who live giving reprimands and nobody pays the slightest attention to them. Everyone laughs at them. They are used to it. The lack of shame has set in. But you must also know people who are always loving and one day reprimand someone, always affectionately, and in spite of that, the one who is reprimanded cries because he did not want to offend that leader. This is true for the leader of the pack.

In my childhood everyone commented that my maternal grandfather did not need to scold his children. It was enough for him to look at them. It seemed incredible to me. Until life gave me the same gift. Many, many times I don't need to say anything. I just watch. And my co-workers react positively.

You can get that from your dog. When Jaya is lying on the bed and I want her to come down, I don't waste verbal commands. I just look at her firmly. She lifts her head and glares at me, as if inquiring, Is it with me? Is it for me to get out of here? If I continue to look at her, she lowers her little ears and climbs down from the bed.

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