Half a century of life has taught me to accept a flaw of human beings as something incurable: their dissatisfaction.
I have traveled around the world countless times and met many, many people. I have been in close contact with countless initiatory fraternities, cultural entities, professional associations, sports academies, universities, schools, companies, federations, foundations... In all of them, without exception, there was discontent.
In every human grouping there is a cohesive force called an egregore. According to the law of action and reaction, every force tends to generate an opposing force. Therefore, in these same groupings, small disagreements constantly arise that take on dramatic contours through the refraction of an egocentric perspective that only takes into account the satisfaction of the expectations of an isolated individual who analyzes the facts according to their own conveniences.
In other words, if the facts could be analyzed without the deleterious interference of egos, it would be found that there is nothing wrong with these facts, other than emotional instability. Instability that is congenital in all human beings. A kind of original design flaw, which is still in the process of evolution. After all, we are an extremely young species compared to other life forms on the planet. We are in the infancy of our evolution and, as such, we inevitably commit the natural immaturities of this phase.
Note that very few people are satisfied with their worlds. In general, everyone has complaints about their work, their subordinates and their superiors; about their remuneration and recognition for their work; complaints about their parents, their children, their spouses, their condominium, the government of their country, their state, their city, the police, the justice system, the traffic department, taxes, ill-mannered neighbors, unskilled drivers, undisciplined pedestrians... So much to complain about, isn't it?
If we go down this path, we will conclude that the world is not a good place to live and we will continue to be bitter and make others bitter. Or we will commit suicide!
Already in antiquity, the Hindus observed this phenomenon of endemic human dissatisfaction and taught how to solve it:
If the ground has thorns, don't try to cover the ground with leather. Cover your feet with shoes and walk on the thorns without being bothered by them.
In other words, the solution is not to complain about people and circumstances to try to change them, but to educate yourself to adapt. The correct attitude is to stop childishly wanting things to change to satisfy your ego, but to change yourself to adjust to reality. That is maturity.
The other attitude is neurotic, because you will never be able to modify people or institutions to fit your desires. Don't be a misfit.
So, let's stop with that. Let's accept people and things as they are. And let's try to like them. You will notice that they start to like you much more and that the situations that seemed immovable to you before, now change spontaneously, without you having to demand it from them. Try it. You will like the result!
From the book Change the world, start with you,
Professor DeRose, Egrégora Books