Book - Thoughts Unveiled - DeRose
Biological yeast for life to grow and become fluffy

I think, therefore I am. This is how Descartes referred to the human prerogative to think, in his Discourse on the Method, in 1637. With this, we conclude that the Method has been discussed since at least that date!

There are many ways to transmit the DeRose Method: technical, philosophical, ethical, behavioral discourse, stories, messages or through sutras, which are the maxims of this book. Sometimes, a simple sentence contains the synthesis of a complex premise or the impact of a perception capable of changing your life forever.

The thoughts in this book are little seeds upon which you can meditate and, with that, germinate conclusions, discoveries, paths through which, who knows, you will be able to lead your life with more security, success and harmony. These maxims can be the path of stones, through which you will lead your destiny, erring less and getting it right more; suffering less and enjoying more. These sutras provide maturity, consideration, understanding, comfort and even a certain mastery over the facts of life.

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Half a century of life has taught me to accept a flaw of human beings as something incurable: their dissatisfaction.

I have traveled around the world countless times and met many, many people. I have been in close contact with countless initiatory fraternities, cultural entities, professional associations, sports academies, universities, schools, companies, federations, foundations... In all of them, without exception, there was discontent.

In every human grouping there is a cohesive force called an egregore. According to the law of action and reaction, every force tends to generate an opposing force. Therefore, in these same groupings, small disagreements constantly arise that take on dramatic contours through the refraction of an egocentric perspective that only takes into account the satisfaction of the expectations of an isolated individual who analyzes the facts according to their own conveniences.
In other words, if the facts could be analyzed without the deleterious interference of egos, it would be found that there is nothing wrong with these facts, other than emotional instability. Instability that is congenital in all human beings. A kind of original design flaw, which is still in the process of evolution. After all, we are an extremely young species compared to other life forms on the planet. We are in the infancy of our evolution and, as such, we inevitably commit the natural immaturities of this phase.

Note that very few people are satisfied with their worlds. In general, everyone has complaints about their work, their subordinates and their superiors; about their remuneration and recognition for their work; complaints about their parents, their children, their spouses, their condominium, the government of their country, their state, their city, the police, the justice system, the traffic department, taxes, ill-mannered neighbors, unskilled drivers, undisciplined pedestrians... So much to complain about, isn't it?

If we go down this path, we will conclude that the world is not a good place to live and we will continue to be bitter and make others bitter. Or we will commit suicide!

Already in antiquity, the Hindus observed this phenomenon of endemic human dissatisfaction and taught how to solve it:
If the ground has thorns, don't try to cover the ground with leather. Cover your feet with shoes and walk on the thorns without being bothered by them.

In other words, the solution is not to complain about people and circumstances to try to change them, but to educate yourself to adapt. The correct attitude is to stop childishly wanting things to change to satisfy your ego, but to change yourself to adjust to reality. That is maturity.

The other attitude is neurotic, because you will never be able to modify people or institutions to fit your desires. Don't be a misfit.

So, let's stop with that. Let's accept people and things as they are. And let's try to like them. You will notice that they start to like you much more and that the situations that seemed immovable to you before, now change spontaneously, without you having to demand it from them. Try it. You will like the result!

From the book Change the world, start with you,
Professor DeRose, Egrégora Books

Have you ever heard this? You're right, but that's not the way to go about it. A phrase commonly said to someone who tries to defend themselves or their rights aggressively or rudely.

With education, everything is resolved. By conversing with civility and courtesy, you can achieve negotiations that would otherwise be impossible. When you are emotional, do not respond to anything. Much less in writing. There is a poorly soldered circuit in our brain that leads us to be more polite when we talk eye to eye and to be more uncouth when we write. I am like that too. So, I avoid responding in writing when my blood is boiling. When I need to write, I don't send it. I let my head cool down and the next day I reread what I wrote. I always soften my writing. If I can, I wait longer. If possible, I wait weeks or even months before sending a harsh response. As time passes and as I reread, I soften the text more and more.

There was a letter in which I called the attention of a former supervisee and very dear friend of mine. It took me six months to consider that there was no way to soften it any further. The result was excellent. But when I was young (read: immature), I used to respond in the heat of emotion. With that attitude, I never managed to solve the problems at hand and I also lost good friendships. It is the price you pay for inexperience.

Once, I was doing digital weight training, changing the TV channels, as the male minority usually does. By chance, I came across a program in which a former student of mine, very famous, was being interviewed by another former student, no less celebrated. I stopped to listen to them. The interviewer was being extremely rude to the interviewee. Something so absurd that I don't understand how the program director didn't warn her through the point in her ear. But the interviewee did not lose his elegance and responded with all courtesy to each rudeness of the interviewer. He rose a lot in my concept that day. Until, much later, at the end of the dialogue, the interviewer said, in a sweet voice: But, Paulo, you know I like you very much, don't you? Ready! He had softened her up. Maybe he had captivated her with his good manners.

From the book Change the world, start with you, Professor DeRose, Egrégora Books.

We all want to be in control. For the most rational way that provides better results is not to play hardball or vomit emotions haphazardly. When you understand that he who says what he wants hears what he doesn't want, your words and actions become more intelligent.
Imagine a huge rock, stable on the edge of a cliff. The rock is our emotional. While it is there, still, it gives us the impression that its stability is perennial. However, its position is likely to roll downhill.

Just a small touch, perhaps with the tip of your index finger, to make it lose its apparent stability and descend destroying everything. So is our emotional. One moment you are happy and cheerful; the next moment - by any eventuality - you become furious or saddened.
However, if the stone starts to oscillate, in the position in which it is, a finger on the other side is also enough to prevent it from falling. That's how our emotional works.
Just one finger is enough to prevent a disaster, if applied at the right time, before the triggering. Remember the story of Peter, the Dutch boy hero? He saw a crack in the dike and put his little finger to prevent the force of the water from increasing the hole and eventually breaking the dam. Just one finger, a child's finger, was enough to prevent a tragedy.
If you can detect a threat of emotional outburst just a moment before it breaks out, it will be very easy to avoid the tantrum, just put your finger in the gap in the dam.

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